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Headstone where you’re not buried and none where you actually are … only in my family … May 21, 2014

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My great grandaunt, Corinne Edgerton Stillman (1855-1902), daughter of Phineas Crandall Stillman and Orpha Crandall has a strange situation.  Here is her headstone in Alfred Rural Cemetery, in Alfred, NY.

Corinne Edgerton (Stillman) Rudiger Alfred Rural Cemetery

Corinne Edgerton (Stillman) Rudiger Alfred Rural Cemetery

Corinne Edgerton (Stillman) Rudiger Alfred Rural Cemetery

Corinne Edgerton (Stillman) Rudiger Alfred Rural Cemetery

Now, Corinne is not buried in Alfred Rural Cemetery, but her sister Amelia whose stone she shares is.  Corinne is actually buried in Section 196, Lot 28587 of Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn, NY along with her husband John Max Rudiger (1857-1933).

But … Corinne has no headstone where he body is actually buried.  Neither does her husband John.  The only specific stones belong to John’s parents John Max Rudiger Sr and his with Amanda Crandall.

Here’s his stone in the family plot in Green-Wood Cemetery:

Rudiger Plot in Green-Wood Cemetery, Brooklyn, NY

Rudiger Plot in Green-Wood Cemetery, Brooklyn, NY

So the question is, why?  I kinda feel bad for Corinne that there’s no maker for her grave.  I have to wonder why her husband, who died many years after her, didn’t buy one for her.  Was it for lack of money?  Was he lazy and just never got around to it?  Was it something else I’d never guess in a million years?  I’m going to ponder this one for a while, I can tell already.

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2 Responses to “Headstone where you’re not buried and none where you actually are … only in my family …”

  1. Luanne Says:

    You are probably right that he might not have had the money. What does the census show as to his worth? What about their children? Seems to me that they should have at least done something for their parents. I have a paternal great grand aunt and (young) grand uncle buried in a small cemetery in Kansas that have no headstones. I was surprised that no one placed one on their graves even as time passed. I suppose they marked it with a wooden cross which over time and storms, were destroyed. Now it is impossible to know where they are buried within the cemetery as there are no official records. Strange that your ancestors didn’t at least put some stone up for them in the cemetery that they are buried in.

    • jgeoghan Says:

      Attitudes about headstones seem to vary over time. I have a 4th great grandmother buried in the Rogerene Cemetery in Ledyard, CT. The didn’t use headstones at all. They put stones with numbers carved in them to mark graves. They thought it was sacrilegious or pagan to write out names and dates on a stone as we do now. They had a list in the church that denoted who was buried where, but of course that list is gone now.


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